Are you one hundred percent happy with every relationship in your life? Me either! They say you teach others what you want to learn more of yourself. That is so true for me during these past few weeks. I’m learning to stop focusing on complicated relationships. Instead, I am learning to work on relationships that make me feel good and support me.
We are in week four of balancing out our social and family relationships. We’ve gone over building our social skills, loving others unconditionally, and how to identify those toxic relationships in our life. Now, let’s bring all of those together and make ourselves a goal of finding deep and meaningful connections.
What does it mean to connect deeply with someone?
Simply put, it means you value their mind, body, and spirit. Your conversations with these people are more in-depth and more meaningful. Often, these are individuals to whom you can say anything; there is no judgment, and you trust them with your thoughts and feelings. Healthy, meaningful relationships are rare but offer so much to our well-being.
Connection is why we are here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives. – Brene Brown
That is why this week’s mindfulness challenge is to have a meaningful relationship goal.
Think about all your relationships in your life. Do you have many friends, but none are deep and meaningful? Is there someone you used to have a deeper relationship with, but it has gone astray? Maybe you’ve been more focused on complicated relationships that never work and have ignored those that do.
Whatever comes to mind, write it down on your worksheet. Your goal will be to work in this area.
Take at least five minutes to write about the last time you connected with someone on a deeper level. Write down anything that comes to mind. How did it make you feel? What moments do you remember? Write as much detail as you can remember about the experience.
Whatever goal you chose to work on, write down the steps you are going to take in the next week. For instance, let’s say you have tons of friends, but none are deep and meaningful. Your goals may look something like this:
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- Look inside myself and find out why I’ve never made deeper connections with all of these friends I have. What’s keeping me from connecting deeper with others?
- After much thought, I have selected [insert name] as a person I want to have a deep connection.
- I will invite [insert name] to lunch this week.
- Prepare a list of questions that I am going to ask them so I can learn more about who they are.
- Practice being mindful during this time and focusing on what I can learn about them.
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The first step should always be to look inside yourself and discover what role you are playing in the relationship. Remember, when we feel something is wrong, there is something wrong with us. Make sure to take some time to practice self-awareness and work on yourself.
Other steps should be what you need to accomplish to get to your goal of having deeper connections.
There is something so rare about having a connection with someone that is effortless. A natural flow of meaningful conversations is a beautiful thing.” – Ela
You might be asking yourself, what happens if I pick someone that isn’t receptive to a deeper connection with me? Well, then this isn’t your person or a member of your tribe. Guess what? That is perfectly fine. That doesn’t say anything about you. Pick another person until you find one that does.
We are all different, and you never know what journey someone else is on.
When the week is over, write down what you learned. Did you discover anything new about yourself? Make sure to include the results of each step in your goal and any feelings you noticed during the week.
Taking steps towards our goals of deeper relationships can lead you to places you never thought you’d go! I have someone pretty special to me that I would love for you to check out. She had a goal to connect with others on a deeper level and, therefore, started a vlog on Facebook and Instagram to do this very thing. I’m so proud of her, she is a beautiful soul, and you will love her too! So do yourself a favor and check out Conscious Connections with Keely.
If you enjoy these mindfulness challenges, sign up for our weekly mindfulness challenge here. I would love for you to be a part of my mindful tribe.
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