Who doesn’t see a confident person and wish they could be a little more like them? These individuals pull us into their aura, and we are mesmerized by it. However, we can all be this way if we can learn to love ourselves and be confident in who we are.
Before we embark on what self-confidence is and why it’s important, let’s take a look at what confidence is not.
When we are not confident in ourselves, we have feelings of doubt or uncertainty inside. Fear of failure and negative self-talk is part of our daily life. We look at others and wonder why everything seems to work out for them, but not for us. These thoughts create envy inside of us, which is why jealousy is also a common trait of those who lack confidence.
We may even believe that person is arrogant or self-centered, simply because they possess something that we don’t have. These feelings of labeling others come from our own self-doubt.
If we look inward, we would see that the problem is not in the other person who has it all. The problem is in our ability to trust ourselves and our capabilities.
If you hear a voice within you, say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” –Vincent Van Gogh
So what is self-confidence?
Being confident in ourselves means we honor our worth. We are comfortable with who we are and feel we are enough. Self-confident people don’t compare themselves to others, only to themselves. When we trust in ourselves, we are more in control of our emotions.
Another benefit of being confident in ourselves? Happiness. When we trust ourselves and our decisions, we become happier and more satisfied.
Just believe in yourself. Even if you don’t, pretend that you do and, at some point, you will.” – Venus Williams
Your mindfulness challenge for this week is to be more confident in yourself.
I have created a worksheet for you to use here.
Often others see qualities inside us that we don’t see ourselves. Acknowledging the positive things that others say about us can help us be more confident. Write down the things others have complimented you on either recently or in the past. Additionally, be aware of this moving forward. Any time someone acknowledges you in positive ways, write them down. You can also ask those that you trust to tell you what are some positive qualities that you possess.
Start with the first one, do you see yourself in this positive away? If you answer no, then take the time to explore what negative thought patterns are keeping you from believing this. Write down those negative thoughts. Reverse the negative thought into a positive one and write it down.
Go back to your negative thinking and draw a line through it. False beliefs and negative thoughts are not useful and deter us from being our best. We need to wipe these out every chance we get.
If you answer yes, write down the compliment as if you were giving it to yourself.
Repeat the above steps until you have ten positive affirmations about yourself.
For example, your best friend says: “You have the best laugh.” Your negative thought: “I hate my laugh, I sound like a pig snorting” Turning that into a positive would be: “I do have a great laugh, and I love to hear myself laughing.”
Keep these positive thoughts with you where you can see them and repeat them to yourself often.
Once you get into the pattern of turning your unhelpful confidence killers into positive confidence builders, keep looking inward into other areas of yourself. List out all the qualities that you see in others that are confident and turn those into positive affirmations for yourself.
Additionally, take some time to look up quotes on self-confidence. Write down your favorite confident quote. (Scroll to the bottom for a few of my favorites) Keep this quote with you as a reminder to work on building your confidence.
Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” – Christopher Robin
Check out these other self-love mindfulness challenges:
Mindfulness Challenge, Learn to Love Yourself
Mindfulness Challenge, Appreciate Your Worth
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