The other day I was reading a post by my daughter in law, where she was discussing outgrowing relationships. I loved this, and it got me to thinking about how mature her thinking was on this subject. Here she is a young adult and probably has more maturity than some twice her age.
Some people seem to handle whatever life throws at them. Their entire worlds could be falling around them, but they remain calm and steadfast. These are mature and emotionally healthy people.
We would all like to think that we become more mature as we age, but that is not always the case. There are emotionally immature people in their forties, fifties, and even older. Why? Because they have stopped growing. Being mature requires one to grow. The good news is, we can always start practicing better habits to begin maturing.
You know you’ve become mature and mindful when you are practicing these habits:
You start becoming self-aware of who you are.
You’ve learned the lesson that not every situation needs your attention.
You can’t give what we don’t have, so loving ourselves is a priority.
You realize how precious your time is and stop giving it to those who poison your soul.
What others say about you no longer hurts because you know that what others say is merely a reflection of themselves. Take nothing personally.
You’ve learned to challenge false beliefs and choose what feels right for you.
Be aware of the half truth. You may have gotten hold of the wrong half. – Unknown
Your mind is open to all perspectives and free of judgment.
You’d rather have peace in your life than be right.
The only person you compare yourself too is yourself.
You’d prefer to learn something new than gossip.
Gratitude is part of your daily prayers.
You don’t spread hate. Instead, you wish nothing but happiness to those who hate you. You may even embrace that you have haters, as this means you are doing something in life right.
No one judges you that is doing better than you, remember that.” – Unknown
You don’t seek revenge or try to hurt others, even if you feel they’ve hurt you.
The more you listen to others, the more you learn, and that is more important to you than what you have to say.
You take a breath and pause before reacting. Self-regulate your emotions so that you don’t let your emotions control you.
You feel genuine happiness for other’s success.
Suspend the expectation that others must act a certain way to make us happy.
You are fully present as life is happening.
Happiness, not in another place but this place… Not for another hour, but this hour. – Walt Whitman
No longer complain about things that do no matter.
Practice forgiving yourself and others.
If you want a balanced life with less drama and more peace, practice these habits! Speaking of balance, this year, we are working on balancing out all areas of our life. If you’d like to join our weekly mindfulness challenge and start balancing out your life, sign up here.
The first mindfulness challenge of 2020:
Mindfulness Challenge, Wipe Out the ANTS
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