The goal of loving unconditionally. We’ve all done it, judged someone at some point in our life. While I’ve always tried my best to look at things from another’s perspective and to do my best not to judge, I know that sometimes I fail.
My goal is to love unconditionally
Conditional love is when you don’t accept someone for who they are, and you try to mold them into a version of yourself. It is selfish and centered around our egos. Unconditional love means we allow everyone to be who they are without judgment.
Each time you want to change something about somebody else, you love with conditions. To let someone be their authentic self means you love them, and you don’t allow yourself to suffer because of their decisions.
As parents, we tend to do this with our children the most. We raised them, so we feel that it’s our responsibility to teach them how to live life according to our thoughts, values, and beliefs. When they choose another path, some parents can become judgmental. However, you can’t fully love someone and judge them at the same time.
When I gave birth to a little girl, did I think one day she would grow up and transition into a man? No. When he first told me he was doing this, my initial thought was my fear and selfishness.
You’re too young. What if you decide later this isn’t what you want? What will people think of us? These were my thoughts. However, quickly I realized I love my kid more than these thoughts.
What this taught me was learning to love my child unconditionally. I don’t live in his body. I can’t imagine what it must be like to live in a body you hate. If I had felt anger, hate, or judged him, I would have lost my child for good. Instead, I sought to understand him and why he felt this way.
If you want peace, you must let go of the belief that our children or those around us should think and act as we do.
When we love ourselves unconditionally it is then we know our mind is strong enough to love others unconditionally. – Ela
So how do we learn to let go and start loving unconditionally?
– First, become self-aware of our feelings and evaluate why we feel the way you do.
– Challenge your thoughts and ask yourself questions to see if they are true or not. Most of the time, our thoughts are not real; they are beliefs that we’ve accepted as truth.
– Seek to understand this person and why they are making the choices they are. When we come from a place of understanding, we can see things from their perspective.
If those feelings are not selfish and you genuinely have a person that’s vibration does not match yours, it’s ok to let that person go. Unconditional love is about loving those who love you in a non-judgmental way.
When you start loving this way, you will find peace within yourself that you wished you’d always had.
If you’d like further reading on ways to love unconditionally, check out The Heart of Unconditional Love.
Peace & Love, Ela
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