Have you ever come across someone that talks badly about others? Are they friendly to that person when they are present? If you answered yes, you just witnessed a fake person.
Genuine connections are very rare. If you are lucky enough to have someone genuine in your life, do yourself a huge favor and don’t screw it up.
As for me, I love genuineness. I’d rather someone be straight-up real with me than to be kind to my face while talking badly about me behind my back.
I know from experience that sometimes, fake people are hard to spot. You want to see the good in everyone, but sometimes overlooking individual personalities can significantly turn on you for the worse.
A general rule to follow is this: If they are doing it to other people, they will do it to you as well.
Here are some other tips to help you spot genuine people from the fake ones:
Fake People
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They do whatever necessary to get people to like them. They need to please everyone around them to get the feeling of being loved.
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The more friends, the better. They prefer quantity over quality friends. The more friends they have, the more they appear to be likable. However, they never get super close with any of them.
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They look down on others because they feel they are superior.
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They talk badly about others behind their backs. Their focus is to look good themselves. They don’t care how they make others look.
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They agree with everything you say. No one will ever agree with everything you say! If they do, trust me, you haven’t met your soul mate. You’ve met someone desperate to be in your life and will tell you what you to want to hear to make that happen.
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They are jealous. On the outside, they may appear to be supportive, but inside they are seething with jealousy.
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They will make you feel guilty about doing something to better your life. Your success is not what they want to see. They are happy right where they are, and they want you to be too.
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They get offended when you tell them the truth if it’s not exactly what they want to hear. Oddly enough, fake people tend to believe lies over truth. Most of us harbor beliefs that aren’t true, but fake people are not genuine themselves, so they don’t think real things. They have lost the ability even to know what is real and what is not.
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They will lie about you. Other real people respect genuine people. The only way they can make you less appealing to others is to spread lies about you.
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Fake people are always the victim in their story.
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They must always have better or do better than you. You are the competition.
Genuine people
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They want you to like them, but they aren’t going to lose any sleep if you don’t. Not everyone is meant to be in their life, and genuine people understand this.
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They don’t go out of their way to impress others. Instead, people are influenced by them simply because they are genuinely lovely people.
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They are confident in themselves and who they are.
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Genuine people don’t care about your race, religion, success status. They treat everyone the same.
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If they do have an issue with you and you are matter to them, you will be the first to know.
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If they have an issue with you and you are not an essential part of their life, they won’t waste their time dealing with you at all. You’ll be cut out of their life quickly.
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They do for others with no expectations of anything in return.
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These individuals choose their friends well. They prefer quality friends over quantity.
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They act the same in public as they do in private.
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Genuine people are truly happy for you and your successes.
Of course, some of you may recognize a little bit of yourself in both. However, this doesn’t mean you need to call the therapist just yet, and it is not to imply you are a terrible person. Only you get to decide that!
Everyone has reasons why they do the things they do. You are the only person who can decide how you act and why you act in specific ways.
When you become more self-aware, you can then choose who to allow in your life.
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